The meaning of perfection
hola,
So I was discussing recently with a friend about life, the universe, and everything, (the answer is 42) and eventually we started talking about our love lives and ideal person we'd like to meet. This made me wonder if there is a person out there that is perfect for me, so I asked her what she thought about the topic. Is there a perfect person?
Obviously no one person is perfect in all ways. Everyone has flaws and problems. But the question is, is there a perfect person for everyone out there? I mean, does everyone have at least one person in the world that is made exactly for them? After a bit of thought, I realized I don't have enough experience to be able to answer this question very well, but I can give an opinion, and also what I would like to believe!
First I guess I have to think about what a perfect person would be, or perhaps what it means for two people to be made for each other. They would have to think in a similar way and understand each other. The ability to communicate perfectly very early on, interest in each other's habits and hobbies and openness to them, similar views on the world, physical attraction, common goals, chemistry, and similar lifestyles, are all important I think.
Many things develop as you get to know someone that makes them more or less perfect. For two people to be made for one another, they have to be able to fall in love (you need time together for that, and especially time in the same place). Sometimes two people cannot fall in love, even if many of the above criteria are met. If they do though, then they sacrifice things for each other, make compromises, and work to continue life together. When this happens and they really are made for each other, they would feel that there is noone else they would rather be with and remain happy for the rest of their lives.*
I would like to believe that there is a perfect person, maybe even more than one, out there for most people. Imagine, if there is only ONE perfect person, and they live in Australia and you in Canada, and you never met or even heard of each other!! That would be awful! (Some people I know happened to be in exactly this situation and they DID meet! And seem to be very happy together! :-D ).
I think many people would have similar outlooks on life to me, some have similar goals, some others are interested in what I do and viceversa, some others have the same hobbies and interests, some have similar lifestyles, and some others I could fall in love with. Now getting all that in one package...there's the trick, and that would be a perfect person for me. I think you can fall in love with someone who is not perfect for you. I doubt this means that you will necessarily be unhappy with them, and I'm sure many people meet and fall in love and live perfectly happily with an imperfect person. And I think you can meet someone that matches you in every way except you can't fall in love for some reason.
From this logical approach to the question (logical to me anyway, but feel free to point out flaws that probably exist in my thinking) I think that there exist people that are perfect for each other. It's just a matter of a bunch of variables being put together in the same way in different people, and if they're fortunate enough to meet and realize what they've got, then that's awesome!
What this means I guess is that taking the time and effort to meet and get to know as many people as you can increases your odds of finding (one of) your perfect match(es). Not only that, but such a life philosophy would only serve to help you learn more about others and yourself, help you be more interesting, and make you happier even if you haven't found that perfect someone. If you are lucky enough to find them, then you have set yourself up for even greater happiness by having a large circle of friends. I can't imagine that people who close themselves in and don't open up to the world around them are very successful in finding their ideal mate.
The good part is, if that person is realy perfect for you, then it's likely that they will be involved in similar activities and probably that increases the odds that you'll meet!
Anyway, this topic has opened up many other questions in my head, but I think I'm going to stop here and go to bed. If you've made it this far, thanks for reading :-)
* : You may ask, what is the difference between this and a soul mate? I don't know what a soul mate is per se, and dictionary.com gives only a very brief description that leaves much to be desired, but since I'm not sure a soul exists I don't think I can answer this question adequately. The existence of a soul is a question for another time! In any case, I think the idea of a soul mate implies two people who are uniquely tied in some enigmatic way and if they were to meet by chance would immediately form a strong bond. I don't think this is the same thing as two people being perfect for each other. I also don't think that this kind of link between two people exists.
So I was discussing recently with a friend about life, the universe, and everything, (the answer is 42) and eventually we started talking about our love lives and ideal person we'd like to meet. This made me wonder if there is a person out there that is perfect for me, so I asked her what she thought about the topic. Is there a perfect person?
Obviously no one person is perfect in all ways. Everyone has flaws and problems. But the question is, is there a perfect person for everyone out there? I mean, does everyone have at least one person in the world that is made exactly for them? After a bit of thought, I realized I don't have enough experience to be able to answer this question very well, but I can give an opinion, and also what I would like to believe!
First I guess I have to think about what a perfect person would be, or perhaps what it means for two people to be made for each other. They would have to think in a similar way and understand each other. The ability to communicate perfectly very early on, interest in each other's habits and hobbies and openness to them, similar views on the world, physical attraction, common goals, chemistry, and similar lifestyles, are all important I think.
Many things develop as you get to know someone that makes them more or less perfect. For two people to be made for one another, they have to be able to fall in love (you need time together for that, and especially time in the same place). Sometimes two people cannot fall in love, even if many of the above criteria are met. If they do though, then they sacrifice things for each other, make compromises, and work to continue life together. When this happens and they really are made for each other, they would feel that there is noone else they would rather be with and remain happy for the rest of their lives.*
I would like to believe that there is a perfect person, maybe even more than one, out there for most people. Imagine, if there is only ONE perfect person, and they live in Australia and you in Canada, and you never met or even heard of each other!! That would be awful! (Some people I know happened to be in exactly this situation and they DID meet! And seem to be very happy together! :-D ).
I think many people would have similar outlooks on life to me, some have similar goals, some others are interested in what I do and viceversa, some others have the same hobbies and interests, some have similar lifestyles, and some others I could fall in love with. Now getting all that in one package...there's the trick, and that would be a perfect person for me. I think you can fall in love with someone who is not perfect for you. I doubt this means that you will necessarily be unhappy with them, and I'm sure many people meet and fall in love and live perfectly happily with an imperfect person. And I think you can meet someone that matches you in every way except you can't fall in love for some reason.
From this logical approach to the question (logical to me anyway, but feel free to point out flaws that probably exist in my thinking) I think that there exist people that are perfect for each other. It's just a matter of a bunch of variables being put together in the same way in different people, and if they're fortunate enough to meet and realize what they've got, then that's awesome!
What this means I guess is that taking the time and effort to meet and get to know as many people as you can increases your odds of finding (one of) your perfect match(es). Not only that, but such a life philosophy would only serve to help you learn more about others and yourself, help you be more interesting, and make you happier even if you haven't found that perfect someone. If you are lucky enough to find them, then you have set yourself up for even greater happiness by having a large circle of friends. I can't imagine that people who close themselves in and don't open up to the world around them are very successful in finding their ideal mate.
The good part is, if that person is realy perfect for you, then it's likely that they will be involved in similar activities and probably that increases the odds that you'll meet!
Anyway, this topic has opened up many other questions in my head, but I think I'm going to stop here and go to bed. If you've made it this far, thanks for reading :-)
* : You may ask, what is the difference between this and a soul mate? I don't know what a soul mate is per se, and dictionary.com gives only a very brief description that leaves much to be desired, but since I'm not sure a soul exists I don't think I can answer this question adequately. The existence of a soul is a question for another time! In any case, I think the idea of a soul mate implies two people who are uniquely tied in some enigmatic way and if they were to meet by chance would immediately form a strong bond. I don't think this is the same thing as two people being perfect for each other. I also don't think that this kind of link between two people exists.
posted by a bike rider in the big smoke at 10:56 p.m.
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